The Marriage Battlefield: Surviving 29 with the Endless "When's Your Turn?"

The Marriage Battlefield: Surviving 29 with the Endless "When's Your Turn?"

Are you fed up too? Just like me — drowning in a pool of questions from every person who gets to meet and connect with you.

Toh chalo, aao aaj is mudde pe baat kar hi lete hai.

Will be 29 soon and I often find myself surrounded by friends and cousins who are tying the knot one after another. It’s beautiful to see them stepping into a new phase of their lives and I'm grateful to be a part of that.

Every time I attend a wedding, it feels like walking into a war zone where I’m the lone soldier dodging marriage bullets. As a self-proclaimed "serial wedding attendee," I’ve heard it all.

While everyone else is catching the bouquet, I’m catching a wave of useful, yet relentless questions like:

1. "Kab tak dusro ki shadiyon mein jaati rahegi? Tu bhi karle."
2. "Ab tu kab kar rahi hai shaadi?"
3. "Next tera hi number hai!"
4. "Don’t you think all your friends and cousins are getting married? You should too."

And then my expression speaks louder than words with kind sarcasm —

"Woh mere dost hain, photocopy machine thodi na."

Sabki life alag hai, sabke thoughts alag hai. Maybe I want to tick off a few more "Zindagi Ke To-Do’s" before I jump into the Good Morning PATI DEV lo jal pijiye phase.

Marriage Is a Personal Choice, Not a Social Checklist

Let’s be real. Running 28 and soon turning 29, I'm in that "prime marriage age" zone. The ticking clock, the societal pressure, it's all there. But marriage isn’t a race; it’s a whole commitment and it does triple the responsibilities.

Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful adventure. It’s not just about settling down; it’s about that undeniable spark — which honestly, I haven’t felt yet. Some people find their person at 22, others at 35, and some might never feel the need to settle down. And that’s normal.

I don’t want to force myself into something just because everyone around me thinks it’s time. "Shaadi koi samosa nahi hai ki har koi bole — ek le lo, accha hai."

Also, let's not forget that some people feel suffocated by constant pressure. It’s not just annoying — it’s mentally exhausting. Did you get me? Can we please normalize asking people about their dreams and achievements rather than their marriage plans?

Marriage Isn’t a Universal Milestone

We’re so conditioned to believe that marriage is the ultimate achievement badge in life — like, "Congratulations! You leveled up to adulthood!" But life doesn’t come with a one-size-fits-all manual.

Happiness comes in many forms. Some people feel good about being single, some thrive in relationships without ever getting married, and some are happily married. I think all of these choices are valid and deserving of respect. Not everyone has to wear the "Happily Married" tag to feel complete.

Sabko lagta hai ki problem mujh mein hi hai aur isliye mujhe koi ladka nahi mil raha

Aunties sitting on one side of the room whispering, and a few married friends of my age never hesitate to say it to my face.

Society ka logic bhi ajeeb hai — "30 tak ya uske baad shaadi nahi ki toh lagta hai koi update nahi aayi."

Bhai, meri life koi software thodi hai jo upgrade na ho toh "unsupported version" bol ke hata diya jaaye.

Like seriously, agar mere pyaar ki 5G speed nahi mili ab tak, toh kya ho gaya? Buffering ho rahi hai — let it load!

Sometimes, I feel like putting up a billboard that says:

"Dear Society, I’m 28+ and not married. Yes, I know and I’m not worried at all. Thanks for your concern." 

SINGLE Ho Ya MARRIED — Sab Apni Jagah Khush Hai 

Whether single, married, or somewhere in between — sab sahi hai. And I guess that’s what’s important. There’s no "right" or "wrong" timeline in marriage. If you’re happy and content, then "life mein tension nahi, bas swag hona chahiye" — and meri single unmarried life mein kaafi swag hai!

To those already married, I genuinely hope you’re living your best life. Aapki love story dhamaal ho aur romance bemisaal ho!

God’s Plan Is Better Than Ours

You know, I genuinely believe that God’s got this. He is the ultimate storyteller. He has a plan for us, and his timing is better than ours. So chill — he already wrote my "Kahani" and when the chapter of my marriage comes out, it will surely be a "blockbuster entry" — trust me!

If you’re stressing about marriage timelines, remember —

"Zindagi lambi hai doston, shaadi jaldi na bhi ho toh koi tension nahi."

Life unfolds differently for everyone. If it’s meant to happen, it will. So next time you feel like giving someone a pep talk on getting married, remember that they’re just living life on their terms — let them. You live yours too — happily, whether SINGLE or MARRIED.